Being a Better You Today
Posted on August 4, 2008
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If happiness comes from within, then why does it seem so difficult for so many people to find contentment with themselves? Often times it is because they have been conditioned over time to believe in the negative image they have of themselves. Poor self esteem and personal insecurities haunt many people. Self concept or self identity comes from persistent assessment of ones self, however, too many times this assessment is based on the false perceptions and distorted images. Over time, the distorted image becomes reality.
A fear of failure or fear of not succeeding in life can also be a major stumbling stone in self esteem issues. While many women believe this thought absurd, the reality remains that women are more self critical when it comes to their self ratings of success than in any other aspect of their lives. When holding on to the thought that success needs to be the starting point for happiness, that happiness is rarely found.
The self-esteem issues and fear of failure may be the only two things that are standing between you and your life of happiness. But, in order to bridge that gap, you must first recognize that these are the reasons you are unhappy and try to focus on improving that self-esteem and those fears of taking risks and succeeding. Once those are overcome, a healthy self image will follow.
Improving one self needs to incorporate a mental, physical and emotionally sound life. Asking yourself some of the hardest question can often open up those mental blocks between you and happiness. What areas of your life make you the most unhappy? What areas in life do you wish were different? What areas in your life need the greatest change to meet your definition of success? Is that definition one that can be attained in reality?
Physical self improvement is usually easy to identify but difficult to achieve. While some self-improvement requires you to undergo a physical transformation (like loosing or gaining weight), other require you to simply accept the body you have-and often that is the more difficult task. When we condition ourselves to believe in a set standard of beauty for which we ourselves do not fit, it makes self-acceptance a trying task. However, it is a necessary task in order to achieve happiness.
The emotional aspects of happiness are a bit more difficult to change and require careful time and attention to the details of our past, present and future. Our lives are rooted in the emotional fractures that have created the psyche was now possess. Releasing the hold these fractures have on our present day lives is needed to fulfill our destination of happiness.
The changes needed in our mental state are often those that run concurrently with the emotional changes. Mentally we judge ourselves based on expectations only we understand. If we never achieve those goals we create a negative self image that will wreak havoc on our chances of happiness. Removing all boundaries and definitions of success will greatly improve our chances of happiness.
When attempting to achieve happiness in life, self improvement can go a long way. The mental focus we need, the emotional stability we achieve and the self-esteem we create will all come together and form the happiness we want
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