Helpful Hints To Get That Second Date
Posted on July 31, 2008
Filed Under Marriage |
You’ve had the first date and would like to have a second date with her now. You have the sense that things went well, and consider the time spent together. It wasn’t so easy to figure out what she was feeling though, as it often isn’t on the first date. Nothing catastrophic occurred, so the possibility of another date with this woman are pretty good, all in all.
Write down what you did on your first date, and something you liked about each event. This is an invaluable bit of information for the follow-up phone call. Recalling specific details of the date is a very subtle way of showing interest in your lady.
Confidence is mandatory when preparing to make the follow-up call to the first date. Whether by reciting affirmations, exercising to build up adreneline, talking with a good friend who supports you, there are any number of ways leading up to feeling good about yourself. It takes courage sometimes to make that call, and so, without being cocky, this is a very good action to undertake before placing that call. Just make sure the confidence doesn’t cross over into egotism or grandiosity.
Pick up the phone and go for it! Choosing to identify who you are promptly will lessen any potential confusion as to whom she is speaking with, and keep your self-confidence intact. Talk about her and her day, and how she has been since the first date with you. It’s a known fact that we all like to be the center of attention, we all like to know there is someone interested in our well-being. Be sure to show interest by asking questions, but not so many that you seem to be prying. Women like men who know how to listen, and seem interested enough to ask questions.
Once the conversation has warmed up and become more at ease, inquire as to her plans for later in the week. This will give you better chances of there being availability in her schedule should she care to see you again. If nothing is planned, then it would be a good time to ask her if she’d like to go out again. Be casual yet interested. Maybe say \”get together\” instead of \”second date\”, which may be too stressful of a term for her. If she does have plans, don’t fret, simply tell her why you called; that you had a great time last time you were together, and are interested in doing so again soon. Just remember to keep it easy and light.
Great if her answer was yes! Perhaps this isn’t the way it played out, however. Keep your chin up. Give her your number and tell her to call when she has some free time if she’s interested in hooking up again. Sometimes women like to play hard to get. She may call at some future time, when she feels more in control of the situation, or she may not call at all. In any event, continue to live your life, without waiting by the phone, or forgetting to exhale.
The great thing is that if that second date doesn’t happen, you can always try again with another woman. If you did everything as it should have been done on the first date, like being polite and a gentleman, listening when she talked, and things like that and she still doesn’t call, then maybe she just isn’t the one for you. At least you’ve only invested in one date at this point, and you can use the experience to better prepare for your next date with someone new.
Most importantly, always be who you are. Never try to be what you might think someone else would like you to be. Not starting out on an honest note, the likelihood of you and anyone making it to the second date are slim. Always be a good, kind, and polite person. Stay involved in the date. Try something new! Following this suggestions, I’m sure that the second date will be easy to rope in.
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